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Couples coaching is as individual as you are!
Relationship Coaching
In relationships, often two people can't always see how each person feels about the other. This is, at times something we may not understand and respect that people don't all want the same thing. It’s when we become more aware of ourselves, and we see that our partner isn't on the same page, and we may have grown apart.
Coaching is offered to provide you with a space where you are able to talk about your feelings without judgement but learn to listen to one another and, most importantly, learn how your partner needs you to react to get the best out of each other in this safe, impartial and confidential space.
For many couples this becomes the start to a new healthy connection. This can be difficult when you start talking.
It can be like a computer; when we press the REFRESH button, and the relationship can be rebooted to start again.
Coaching is an effective form of talking that has been proven to work in many situations and dynamics that occur.
If you are willing to be open to see the patterns of a relationship breakdown then you may be surprised at the results. Time along with the willingness helps for this type of investment to become your desired reality.
Communication allows for a better flow with an evolving space and a sanctuary for many people that can grow with you through life stages and transitions
The key to building a relationship is by learning how to communicate with each other.
Relationship Mediation
INTRODUCTION
This is a unique initiative from Mind4Therapy Support Services. It takes the skills, structures, strategies, objectives and process of Workplace Mediation, AND then blends them with the expectations, needs, issues, problems and dynamics of modern marriages, partnerships and long-standing relationships. The outcome of such a merger is a brand new & unique Mediation Service for those couples who genuinely want to salvage & rescue their union, create a new mutually-agreeable set of relationship guidelines, and steer the relationship in a new direction.
BACKDROP
Longstanding partnerships, marriages and relationships are immensely important for both family and society at large. We, of course, do not advocate the prolonging of emotional distress and mental anguish unnecessarily. But, we still feel that such bonds should not be cast aside too easily or too casually.
Relationships DO have to be worked at! That sounds like a by-line from an Agony Aunt Letters page. But, it’s what known as a “Truism” – something that sounds so obvious that it’s almost boring, BUT still fundamentally and significantly true!
WHAT IS RELATIONSHIP MEDIATION?
It is, as stated above, a service that is specifically designed for those couples who genuinely want to save, rescue, re-establish or re-invent their relationship or partnership.
The process itself offers the couple a unique opportunity to share feelings & emotions; exchange expectations; identify what went wrong; draw a line under the past; engage in some communication & assertiveness coaching; establish some basic personal conflict resolution steps, AND put together a BRAND NEW framework & set of guidelines for their future together.
“’She or he doesn’t listen any more. They just don’t listen.’ It is one of the most common and despairing cries that we hear in our work; and one that seems to lie at the centre of every relationship breakdown!”
RELATIONSHIP MEDIATION IS NOT...
· Couple Counselling
· “A Day In Court!
· Marriage Guidance
· Settling Divorces, Dividing Assets or Sorting Out Custodies
· About Recapturing What Couples Once Had
RELATIONSHIP MEDIATION IS...
Exploring Issues & Problems Together Constructively and Honestly
· Improving The Couple’s Communication and Listening
· Striving To Resolve Differences
· Exchanging Expectations and Needs
· Identifying Responsibilities
· Acknowledging Each Other’s Feelings & Emotions
· Empowering Each Other
· Establishing New Relationship Guidelines & Ground-Rules
· Genuinely Drawing A Line Under The Past
· Letting Go!
THE RELATIONSHIP MEDIATION PROCESS
It’s a formal and structured process – but, facilitated by one of our experienced Relationship Mediators with a light and informal touch. The whole process takes place within a safe, confidential, caring, empathic and focused environment.
The Mediator is wholly impartial and is there for BOTH parties – INDIVIDUALLY and TOGETHER.
· One-to-One Informal Pre-Mediation Meetings with Both Parties
· 1st Joint-Mediation Meeting – “Looking Back At What Went Wrong”
· 2nd Joint Mediation Meeting – Expectations, Needs and Wants
· 3rd Joint-Mediation Meeting – A New Set of Relationship Guidelines
· Drafting The Settlement
· Agreeing The Settlement and Signing Up
· Later Reviews – If Required
WHAT DO THE RELATIONSHIP MEDIATORS DO?
· Establish Rapport & Trust With The Parties
· Facilitate The Joint-Meeting Discussions and Conversations
· Guide Them Through The Frank & Open Exchanges and Discussions
· Help The Parties Acknowledge Each Other’s Feelings & Emotions
· Help The Parties Identify “What Has Gone Wrong” Before
· Create a Safe, Open, Confidential and Trusting Climate
· Maintain Scrupulous Impartiality At ALL Times
· Motivate, Support and Hold Both Parties When Required
· Help The Parties Improve Communication and Listening
· Help The Parties Dispel Issues of Blame & ‘Victim Mode’
· Offer Coaching in Assertiveness and Conflict Resolution Skills
Relationship coaching understands your relationship
There are so many types of Relationships but I believe the key to a successful life partnership is to work together with your partner to become clear about what you each want.
You may be in a new relationship, planning to commit to one another or together for a long period and know something isn't working out in the way you wish to be with your partner. Coaching and mediation allow couples to learn about one another's needs when in a partnership which can lead to a perfectly healthy relationship.
As you know, when a new relationship is formed between a couple, the happiness and bliss of the relationship often seemed so smooth going in the first few months of the couple's time together.
"Honeymoon Period" - a term often used by couples to describe the first stage of a relationship together is usually filled with the excitement of meeting up, and the curiousness of getting to know each other at a deeper level.
As the couple began to know each other better, each party also began to know each other strengths and weaknesses more and more. Usually, couples hope that over time, each partner will learn to accept the other party more and more in spite of the differences.
However, as months or years goes on - the relationship can become more tense, or simply goes into a period of passiveness in the relationship.
At Mind4Therapy, we also offer Mediation as a way to address underlying issues and emotions in a positive, non-judgmental environment which is more structured and shorter than coaching.
Reasons why you might need coaching
Here are many reasons that might bring couples to seek support from a coach:
- · You do not communicate well with your partner
- · You feel angry with your partner
- · You feel that you love your partner, but just think that something is somehow "missing" in the relationship
- · You felt that your partner don't value your opinions
We are here to support you through this journey