Grief, Bereavement and Loss coaching

 We believe that our society is remarkably impatient with and unkind towards bereaved people. 

After the death of a close loved one, it’s as if the bereaved are allowed three or four months of “societal-sanctioned” grief. But, then, they are expected to return to “normal”.

Moreover, well-known grief theorists have convinced us that Grief is a ‘process’ – containing ‘stages’ or ‘phases’ or ‘characteristics’ or ‘tasks’ – and, as a result, society then encourages the bereaved to ‘move on’, ‘let go’ and ‘get over’ the loss.

In the face of such societal pressure, is it any wonder that the bereaved succumb, bottle up their feelings and don masks to satisfy others? It seems as if we have developed an approach to grief and the bereaved that matches the type of society we have now – immediate, short-term, instant, self-oriented, impatient, solution-focused and success-oriented.

Consequently, we believe that:-

• Grief is a unique and idiosyncratic experience.
• Grief is lifelong! There is NO “getting over” the death of a loved one!
• Instead, it’s about “Adjusting” to a life without the deceased.
• “Adjustment” can take a long and painful period of time.
• BUT … the bereaved will still be able to lead meaningful lives.
• Moreover, the bereaved do NOT have to “let go” of their lost loved ones.
• Instead, they can grow closer to their lost loved ones in the aftermath.
• Indeed, the deceased are still very much part of our lives.
• The challenge is to re-frame our relationship with the deceased.
• RE-FRAMING is achieved through Reminiscing and Remembering.

 For many people, the most lonely and difficult phase of life is losing a loved one. I am here to dealing with grief with you and learning about bereavement. Grief coaching means that we can work together to combat loneliness and pain. This is by providing you with  tailored and attainable goals rather than assigning generic (or unattainable) goals.  

Typically, the objectives focus around restoring what a loved one's death has destroyed, such as self-esteem and decision-making. 

Coming to see us can help you live with loss and feel like themselves again, whether the mourning has been over five weeks or five years. 

Grief coaching comprises not just personalised goals, but also a personalised schedule. Clients are able to attend sessions when it is convenient for them and in a relaxing environment. 

Breaking up is quite difficult. A broken heart is something that most of us have experienced. Many of us understand how difficult it is to separate two lives that are inextricably linked. We've all definitely gone through some type of breakup sadness, so we understand how difficult, persistent, and upsetting it can be.

People suffering a breakup aren't always comfortable expressing, "This is an earth-shattering loss that I need time and space to grieve," for a variety of reasons. So here we are today, ready to acknowledge your losses and discuss some of the factors that may influence a person's grief following a breakup. 

How long does it take to fall in love?
How many seconds pass before a parent loves their newborn child?
How many arguments and rivalries can the bonds of siblinghood withstand?
How many heart-to-hearts and late-night phone calls before you know a friend is true?

These are silly questions, aren’t they? They’re like riddles with no answer. There’s no scale to measure love or to quantify the bonds of friendship and family.

The Riddle’. It’s a really simple song It goes…

I gave my love a cherry that had no stone.
I gave my love a chicken that had no bone.
I told my love a story that had no end
I gave my love a baby, with no cryin’.

How can there be a cherry that has no stone?
How can there be a chicken that has no bone?
Whoever heard a story that never ends?
How can there be a baby with no cryin’?

Well a cherry when it’s bloomin’, it has no stone.
A chicken when it’s pippen’, it has no bone.
And the story of ‘I love you’ will never end.
A baby when it’s sleeping, there’s no cryin’.

“The story of I love you will never end”; what a beautiful lyric.  What a true lyric.

Love, connection and caring, these are things that live on; they don’t just end….you know it…I know it…it’s common sense. So why then do we often hear this questions like these?

“How long does grief last? When will it end? When will I be over it?”

If grief is the result of losing someone we love and care for, then there’s no logic that can be applied or formula that can be used in determining how long it will last.